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Although it would be nice if it was, marriage isn’t always sunshine and rainbows. Sometimes it’s more like forgotten anniversaries and who forgot to take the bins out. So, if you find your marriage hitting a few bumps, it’s important to stay calm, and maybe try some of the ideas below to get things back on track again.

1. Communication: Talk It Out, Don’t Shout It Out

Communication should always be at the top of your priority list when your marriage is not exactly flourishing as you hoped it would. After all, you cannot hope to solve the problem if both of you do not know what the problems are or where the other one is coming from, Of course, this means being totally honest and laying it all on the line, which is not always easy, but be brave and take that first step to improving your marriage, and you won’t regret it.

2. Date Nights

It’s always a good idea to try and rekindle the spark that lit up your heart when you were first dating, and you know what, something as simple as scheduling regular date nights is a great way to do this. Get dressed up, do to that restaurant you used to love and just reconnect. 

3. Joint Projects: Teamwork Makes the Dream Work

Why not embark on a project that you can both work on together? Whether it’s redecorating a room, gardening, reading these marriage scriptures for a deeper understanding, or even a cooking challenge, shared goals can bring you closer together again, and when you’re focusing on the task at hand instead of the issues you are facing, it’s a lot easier to get along and have some fun together, which is probably just what you need!

4. Space and Independence: Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

It might not be ideal, but at the end of the day, you might just need to give each other some space to get things back on track again. Yes, you’re a couple, but you’re also individuals. Pursue your own hobbies, go out with your mates, have some me-time. It’s healthy, and it gives you more to talk about than what’s for dinner.

5. Surprise Each Other

It’s always good to bring back a little mystery into your relationship with fun surprises. It doesn’t have to be grand gestures like a weekend in Paris (though that wouldn’t hurt) but even something as simple as a surprise dinner, a thoughtful gift, or a love note can do wonders.

6. Seek Professional Help

If things are really rocky,  you should definitely consider seeking professional help. Couples therapy can provide a safe space to work through issues with a mediator who won’t take sides (even if you are clearly right). There is no shame in seeking this kind of help, and if it assists you in putting your relationship back together, then it has to be worth a try, right?

7. Create Shared Experiences: Memory Lane Is a Lovely Road

Take the time to create new, positive memories together. Attend a concert, go on a road trip, or try something adventurous like bungee jumping (only if you both really want to, of course). 

If your marriage is going through a bit of turbulence,  it is important that you don’t panic, after all, every marriage has its ups and downs, and the tips above can help you to get through it all more often than not.